In this episode of The Roberta Series, I share one of the hardest parts of dementia care: figuring out whether my mom was truly declining or manipulating the moment.  With Mom’s lifelong patterns of avoidance and manipulation, it took a lot of eyes — family, doctors, APS — to determine what was real decline. From constant cancellations to getting lost behind the wheel, this episode highlights the key signs, the medical pushback, and the moment everything became undeniable.